How to Get Your Life Back on Track

Most people, at one time or another, have found themselves wandering off the path they had envisioned for themselves. Perhaps they wanted to get fit and lose weight, but after a couple of months, they went back to old habits and put those pounds they managed to shed back on. Maybe they wanted an exciting, fulfilling career in nursing, but are now working in an office. Just because you have not achieved the things you want so far, doesn’t mean you can’t get there in the end. Here are some simple tips for getting your life back on track.

Evaluate What You Want from Your Life

As you are not in the place you want to be in life, this is the ideal opportunity to start again and re-evaluate those goals. You want to think carefully about all the areas of your life and if you are happy, or if you can improve them. Give yourself the freedom to aim high and look at any possibilities you can imagine. For example, are you happy with your job? Do you want to live in a different area or country? Once you have thought about all aspects of your life, you can decide what you want to keep doing, and where you want to start making changes.

Set Yourself Goals

Setting goals in life are the perfect way to get your life back on track. However, the way you set and review your goals is as important as the goals themselves. Most people have things that they would ‘like’ to do, or places they ‘wish’ they could go, but these aren’t definitive goals that you can work towards. Firstly, take the list things you want from your life and turn them into specific goals. You want a new job, or you want a new relationship, these are then the specific challenges that you have set yourself which will make it a lot easier to manage.

Make Your Goals Achievable

Although you can set any goal in life that you want, you also want to keep your motivation high because this way, you won’t lose focus. To do this, you need smaller goals along the way that you can achieve and keep yourself on track. If you want to change jobs, then although you might ultimately want to be a nurse, there are other steps along the way that you need to take. You can make one goal to actively look for nursing jobs for one hour each day. Another could be that you will enroll in a course to help you qualify to be a nurse. These smaller goals will allow you to tick them off as you go along and give you a sense of achievement towards the bigger goals.

Give Yourself a Timeframe

One of the reasons that many people fail to meet their goals is that they don’t place a timeframe on them. That means they start to procrastinate and delay doing something until the next day and then the next. To keep yourself on track, you need to give yourself a time limit that the goal needs to be completed. For example, if you want to lose weight, give yourself a target weight and a year to complete it. You can then evaluate your goal as you go along to see if you are on track.

Allow Yourself to Have Fun Along the Way

If you are too hard on yourself, you might start to get demoralized or unhappy. To combat this, you should add some fun into the equation, so you aren’t always thinking of the ultimate goal at the end. For example, if one of your goals is to change your look, then allow yourself the opportunity to have some fun with it. Spend some time in the stores trying on new clothes to see what suits you, you can even take some friends with you so that you can ask for advice. Try different hairstyles, makeup and perhaps even change your eye color with some contact lenses. You can read this guide to how they can change your look and which to choose. By adding fun to the process, you are achieving your goals without even realizing it.

Think Positively

Few people get the things they want from being negative; in fact, they will usually miss their goals because they don’t believe in themselves! Part of achieving your goals is to think positively about what you want and believe in yourself that you can get there. If you are struggling to achieve a positive mental attitude, then there are a few techniques you can learn to help you. You can create phrases and pin them to a board in your office or on your mirror at home. It needs to be somewhere you can see them often and reaffirm your thoughts. Once you have been doing this for a little while, you will see that it starts to improve your thoughts and makes you feel more confident about yourself.

Don’t Beat Yourself Up

Even with all of these tips, there might be some goals that you can’t quite manage to hit in the time you set. If you miss a goal, don’t get too upset, simply reset it and give it a longer timeframe or make the goal a little easier. Once you have achieved it, you can go back and continue with the original plan. The important thing is not to give up and say you can’t do it, because this will cause the whole plan to slip. Think about the bigger picture and the ultimate goal you set. Even the most successful people made mistakes, the difference is that they didn’t give up, they kept going until the achieved what they set out to do.

The most important part of the plan is getting started; this can be the part where you procrastinate the longest. However, if you start today and make your goals, you can soon be in the place you wanted or doing that dream job.

Breastfeeding in Public – Tips for the Nursing Mothers

Imagine a situation where you are waiting in line at the checkout of your local grocery store, with your baby in tow. You have had an exhausting week fraught with sleeplessness and would like nothing more than a long relaxing nap.

Sadly, your newborn is having none of that.

She screams in hunger and grapples with her blanket, sending you into a frenzy.

All eyes land on you as you desperately try to lift your shirt under the blanket, trying to feed the baby without flashing anyone. Your discomfort drastically multiplies with each movement.

This is just one of many examples of what mothers face with breastfeeding newborns.

Despite the weight of the stares from the onlookers, mothers prioritize feeding their babies above all – no matter how uncomfortable she is.

Fortunately, we have prepared a guide so nursing mothers can learn all the necessary information she needs to safely and comfortably breastfeed in public.

Is Breastfeeding in Public Legal?

In 47 of the 50 states in the US, DC and the Virgin Islands, there are laws that specifically allow mothers to breastfeed in public.

If you live outside the US and are unsure if it is legal in your area, check with the law or even doing a simple Google search can immensely help you.

Tips to Help you Comfortably and Discreetly Nurse in Public

1. Dress to Nurse with Ease

Although long, flowy, summer dresses are all the hype this season, it’s best that a nursing mother opts for a simple two-piece outfit.

T-shirts or button-down shirts are easier to lift up and you can be far more discreet when you are feeding.

You can wear layered tops as well to give you an extra cover.

Many retail chains sell maternity fashions that not only flatter you but also make feeding babies that much easier. These outfits may be equipped with flaps that can be unhooked and additionally used to provide cover.

2. Use a Blanket or a Nursing Cover

With a blanket or a nursing cover, mothers can comfortably feed and not fear to expose anyone no matter how much the baby moves.

A nursing cover also has the added advantage of straps to hold the blanket in place so that it doesn’t slip off, unlike regular blankets.

You can even wear various patterns if you are feeling a bit fancy!

If you prefer to use a blanket, make sure it is well ventilated so it doesn’t obstruct air and keep the baby’s skin cool.

3. Wear a Sling

Kill two birds with one stone. A sling helps you carry your baby and also gives the privacy you need during feeding times.

Passersby get the impression that your baby is just snoozing. Talk about convenient!

4. Practice Before Going Outside

To avoid unnecessary embarrassment lest you flash someone, try practicing in front of the mirror.

Pretend like you are in a public setting and adjust the positions of your body to minimize the amount of skin you show. Remember your baby’s feeding needs come first before looks and fashion.

Get a friend or your partner to watch as well to make sure you are getting it right.

It takes some time getting used to but once you master it, you can confidently and quickly feed your baby in the public areas.

5. Pick a Quiet Place for Feeding

The hustle bustle of public places isn’t an ideal place for a meal.

However, your baby still needs to eat.

Consider moving to a quieter space like the deeper, out of the way tables at a restaurant or a lonely park bench away from the crowds.

Don’t go to a bathroom stall or to a cleaning area. You wouldn’t eat on a smelly toilet, neither should your baby.

Putting off feeding for too long will result in a frustrated baby and a frenzied mother. Annoyed babies will not easily latch on to the nipple and thrash around, making feeding even harder.

Additionally, if you don’t find your desired space to comfortably feed the baby, ask establishment managers or staff. Most of the time, they are more than friendly and extremely accommodating.

6. Stand Up for Yourself if You Face Harassment

There are many rude people out there who would either intensely stare at you while you are feeding your baby or tell you that you are guilty of public indecency.

Do not give these people the satisfaction of getting angry or agitated. Instead, simply tell them that you are trying to feed your child and carry a copy of the law to support your argument then promptly walk away.

If you fear violence, call 911 or the emergency helpline of your country.

Most of the time, people are genuinely curious about your newborn hence the stares. Don’t let them take away your confidence to walk in public.

Conclusion

Babies, especially newborns need constant feeding and working mothers don’t always find secluded places to nurse them. That’s why mothers resort to feeding their babies wherever they can. Without proper feeding, babies can get very difficult to handle. Hopefully, these tips will help you do so without being uncomfortable

And ladies, you shouldn’t shy away from taking care of your baby. Remember, you’re a mother now and the baby’s needs always comes first.

About the Author:

This article was contributed by Stepheny on behalf of FeedFond. She’s a mother of two and many of her tips are taken from real-life experiences. Check out more of her work at FeedFond.com